Anyone else on here a parent who is trying to get better at their art?
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This is a great topic to see the life of other artists on the forum. I have 4 kids one of which has special needs so we also keep to a strict schedule for bedtime. During the summer months however they get to stay up later. My oldest is 13 and basically tries to stay up all night. I get to work from home three days a week so I try to sketch for about an hour in the morning before I start my day. If I commute downtown for work i will sketch on the train. Once everyone is in bed (kids no later then 9 and wife around 10ish) i will get my art on till about midnight. So a total of about 3 - 4 hours a day. So days I do nothing with art to recharge. On the weekends I will spend a little more time.
There is a common theme here, we all work late at night when everyone is asleep.
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It certainly is tough. I've got (4) kids under 7 years old and really the only time I have to work on art stuff is either early in the morning (5 - 7am) or after they go to bed (around 8:30 to 9pm)--I have a full time, non-art, job.
The main thing is: you've got to be extremely dedicated and goal oriented. The other thing, that @Dulcie and @smceccarelli mentioned: you have to cut out the entertainment such as TV/Movies/games. Music, podcasts, and audiobooks are great and can be done while drawing/painting.
But I definitely found I was frustrating myself by taking up my free art time with gaming.
It was hard (had a bit of an addiction)for me but I just had to decide what was more important: getting better at art and finishing pieces or winning another game match or leveling up a character.
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@mattramsey Nailed it on the game part, my oldest always asks me to play xbox with him. I give it 30 minutes and thats it. Otherwise i would be there all night playing.
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I have a 13 year old and a 16 year old.
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I have 2 1/2 year old grandson that I babysit while my daughter works. I watch him 4 days a week and I am gone all day on Wednesdays with another commitment so I use the evenings to try and get things done or Mondays. Today I got a lot done but some days I am so tired I fall asleep at the table! Ha! That's not bbecause i'm old, it's somethign I inherited from my mom :-). I am still working on trying to work more on art-the hard thing is that I started my own self publishin gbusiness so that I could be assured I coudl publish my books. The businessy part has been the real challenge and it takes up more time than I like from art. I have got a lot of it settled so that I can focus more again though, so that's good. I waited until I was old (I did have some classes under my belt pre-family though) to improve and I still have a lot to learn!
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@Eric-Castleman I'm 35, married with 5 kids. Ages 10, 9, 7, 4 & 3. The struggle is real. My goal is to draw every day if possible. I don't want to be dried up and rusty when we get to a point where I can actually devote some real time to my art. Most days, I can at least do some sketches after the kids are in bed. My husband and I will sit in bed and watch an episode of something on Netflix, but I'm usually drawing. Other than that, I fit it in when they are outside playing or while they're doing crafts and things. Its not easy, but Its worth it.
The biggest thing that helps is adjusting my expectations. As long as I know I'm going to get interrupted, its easier to not get frustrated/discouraged when it happens. And, I also know, that most of what Im going to get done, is practice, not finished pieces of art. Its just the season.
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I have a 17 year old, and a 2 year old.
Both boys (I know, that's quite an age gap)
It has been a struggle,
spending time with family.
-but still taking the time to sharpen my skills.
I try to set time aside early in the morning
I drink my coffee, and draw daily.
(And sometimes late at night )
It can be tough, especially with young ones.
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This is a really good topic. Thankfully my son is now 17 years old. It was always a challenge to get art time in when he was younger.
One thing that helped me was (and still does) that I carried a sketchbook, usually a small one, around with me at all times. If things slowed down and the son was playing independently then I could do some sketches. Plus I could always draw my son which was great for learning how to draw children. I would often involve him with my drawing time and we had a lot of fun.
Nap times were great for getting more involved work done. It was so hard when we finally couldn't do naps anymore! However, after naps were over, we could settle into a more normal work schedule. I would usually get work done at night and sometimes in the early morning. Once school started things were even better because I could start working more like a 9 to 5, though still often working in the evenings.
Being sleep deprived is the hard part and I would suggest that you take your art at a consistent but slow pace. Plan and have goals but make sure that they are attainable. A goal is no good if it gets you nowhere. Don't try to do it everyday and take a lot of breaks. Having young ones is such a wonderful experience and so I also suggest to really engage with your children and seek different sites and experiences with them. Your family will enjoy it. You will enjoy it. And you will be feeding your mind with things that will get your creative juices flowing.
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Got a great tip from Lee White's business class on time management. I too work in the evenings when everyone is asleep, but find that sometimes it's hard to focus on which task to do first, or next. The Pomodoro technique is one Lee recommends, I have been using it and find that I am more productive within my limited time to work. I use my cellphone as a timer and take short breaks in between work sessions. Good luck to all of us, wouldn't trade my kids for anything but want this dream as well.
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2 teenagers,one dog,one cat and a hubby...
love them all dearly,but I've asked everyone,excluding pets! That I'm not to be disturbed when I'm drawing.I let everyone know that Im about to go into an art vortex,I ask for any last requests,apart from drinks and snacks,they can get those.Then it had better be a limb hanging off,fire or death that distracts me,or there may be some ! -
Pomodoro?
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Wishing well to all our family members with art ambitions,good to know we're not alone....
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I'm 39 with 4 kids. Eldest is 19 and recently moved out to go to uni then there's the 16 year old, the 9 year old and the 4 year old. Recently became a single mum during the week as well so that's thrown an extra spanner in the works.
This thread is such a help. I often feel like I am struggling with this stuff on my own - other people make it look so easy. I started Lee's class but since the summer holidays have had zero time to do anything. I'm going to get back on it and try to get a routine in place too.
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This has been so helpful. Thank you everyone for giving all of us different ideas. Since starting this thread, I have tried implimenting many of the suggestions here, and it has really helped out a lot. I hope the best for all of you who are in the struggle with me
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@bluesky71 - Yep, you can just go to pomodorotechique.com, it's basically using a timer and setting specific tasks for those timed periods. So simple but I find it very effective, I've gotten better at planning out what I'm working on each evening instead of staring at a blank screen (or page).
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@Eric-Castleman Thanks for starting the conversation. We all feel like we're on little islands sometimes, thank goodness for the SVS Forum - all of our bottles with messages get picked up by someone.
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Thanks Rebecca,makes sense to break sessions down,seeing what you have done after 25 mins is a good way to feel like your achieving,or not !then addressing any issues
was up till 2.
