Finding Balance Is A Messy Process - HELP! This one's a bit of a Brain Dump ...

[Sophie Lawson]

@miriam I love this!

Physically placing them in a box / envelope sounds very powerful.

Also love the idea of saying, thank you. I wonder so often, where do thoughts come from, because I know a lot of my thoughts are not mine. Thoughts fascinate me because they too are so powerful, but a lot of them seem to be fear based.

Thank you for you time and advice Miriam.

[Sophie Lawson]

@demotlj I just had to look up the word discernment … yes. That word is perfect and so important right now, as I've noticed I struggling to make decisions. It's funny you said about retreat too… I keep feeling I need it, if I could click my fingers and vanish for a month I would but than, I can lol so maybe I should. Part of me feels like retreating is going backwards, even though I know it's not. I think I'm also scared, what if I retreat and don't want to come back Maybe I have to accept that possibility too.

I think Miriam is right, I just need to sit and deeply think about why I feel guilty about not doing certain things right now. On the Lean Into Art Podcast they once said about asking why … they said keep asking why till you can't ask it anymore, than you have your true answer. I need to do that.

I really liked when you said Sharing doesn't have to happen immediately. It's true, but Why do I feel like it does? Weird isn't it, the mind. Makes you believe so many lies.

Thank you for replying Laurie

[Sophie Lawson]

@nessillustration wow Ness, thank you.

You've hit the nail on the head … I was trying to do too much, too soon. I can see that now.

My automatic writing even said the other day, "Doing less, may be the way to get more done … " which I thought was kind of funny at the time, like a paradox I didn't really understand what it meant till you just said about doing one video a month instead of one a week I just thought one a month wouldn't be good enough, but it would wouldn't it?

Got to Baby Step this adventure lol

Thank you Ness.

[NessIllustration]

@sophie-lawson I should try this automatic writing thing, seems to be really enlightening!!

[KathrynAdebayo]

The advice everyone is offering seems really helpful (to anyone who has read it!), and the way you have so openly shared your situation seems very beautiful to me too.

I've been at a place before of experiencing guilt for not accomplishing more of what I set out for myself. My overall goal was to be of service to others, but I realized that my motivation had been skewed by a sense of what I thought others expected of me. When, through reflection, it clicked that my motivation wasn't pure, I scaled back on activities and commitments (to myself and others) for a solid year. I said no to a bunch of stuff, and it was tremendously difficult because saying no is really unnatural for me. I used to feel like, to be a good person, I needed to say yes to everything (even to my own hopes and dreams). Once I scaled back, I realized how burnt out I had been. It's still a struggle of mine, but giving myself that break and "wiping the slate clean", so to speak, has let me slowly write into my life what I think are the most important commitments.

Anyway, this may be quite different from your own story, but I thought I'd share to stand with you in solidarity. The fact that you are letting yourself explore your life challenges instead of burying them is inspirational to me. All the best!

[Sophie Lawson]

@nessillustration Ness... I highly recommend Automatic Writing. It's pretty insane at times what it brings up.

I learnt about it via the Inspire Nation Shows - AWE (Automatic Writing Experience) Course

It's a really nice course, helped me a lot. They ease you in via this 30 day challenge, starting with 5 minute sessions each morning and building up to 30minutes (hey, just realised, they did the baby step approach like you said about and it worked ) I started it 322 days ago and I've been able to do it every morning since, thanks to the way they set the course up.

I 'm convinced you're communicating with a higher being at times. Certainly some of the wisdom that comes out of these sessions are not from me. Even if you are just talking to yourself though, it works

What's cool is, I saw a Proko video the other day on YouTube about Automatic Drawing! I was like, woohoo, so I've been trying that since, haven't made it a habit yet, but it seems pretty cool, more relaxing than insightful, but it's a fun lil drawing exercise to do for 5 minutes here and there; I normally do it when I'm sat in the laundrette

[Sophie Lawson]

@kathrynadebayo Thank you Kathryn

What techniques did/do you use for your reflection?

Saying no is hard for me too. I always used to say yes when people asked me if I could do a drawing for them, because I thought, like you said, I can't say no, it will upset them. In about 2016 I realised, I was upsetting these people by saying yes, because I never did the drawings for them because I had no real interest in doing them, I was only saying yes to please them, so, ironically, it was the saying yes that resulted in upsetting them more than if I had just said no at the start.

Funny! It was funny when I worked that one out in my head … like some sort of positive seeming but negative resulting paradox type action thing lol The way we work/ our mind is so complicated, but I find it incredibly fascinating.

[NizhoniWolf]

I think the need to be on social media is drilled into us "if we want to be successfull" But the truth is we need to learn our craft to be Successful. Yes there is a need for social media, but i don't think it should distract from the learning.

Your guilt tells be that you feel you 'owe it' to others to make videos (etc) But the truth is, you don't owe anyone.SWAT.
And spending time in meditation/self reflection/therapy might help you discover why you subconously feel this way.
Personally if i were you i'd make a very clear (video) announcment explaining that you are taking a year break. That you'll maybe do insta stories of the 'artistis play' that you do? And that when you are ready to come back to making videos you'll be more experaniced and ready to make new, quality content!

You first.

Good luck ^_^

[NessIllustration]

@nizhoniwolf I agree and disagree with you at the same time. Yes we don't owe anyone anything and if we feel guilty for not posting because we feel we owe it to our audience, there's a big problem. However, that's not exactly what I got from Sophie. It seems that sharing her journey helps her in her learning process and that's why she wants to make the videos. I think she's putting a bit too much pressure on herself, but she never said she felt forced to make them for others, more that she wanted to do them for herself. And if that's the case, being on social media early in your career or even before you start you career can be an enormous asset! I started my social media at the same time I started working, which means I started my career at zero. But I had made art for over 10 years at that point and wished many times I had posted and documented my process. Not only so I could look back at in later, but because people like accompanying you on your learning journey and I could have started my career with a built-in audience of thousands if I'd started early, instead of zero. That would have been a huge advantage especially in the beginning!

[MOO]

@nessillustration I think guilt comes when we set too high of a bar for ourselves. I also have had times I felt a lot of guilt if not constantly doing something productive. It's always hard to manage freedom of time. It's much easier to follow a structured plan all layed out, IMO. I set myself projects and a time to do them. Sometimes it ends up being a day later but, it gets done. I have a lot of time on my hands as my husband retired and we live in a fifth wheel, we are learning how to use our time in meaningful ways but it has been an adjustment. I don't know if I've said anything helpful but, those are some of my thoughts. Why should you feel guilty? There may be no reason at all. If there is, you'll know why and can then address it wish you the best. You're obviously working hard on figuring things out

[Sophie Lawson]

@nessillustration I think you've summed up the conflict in my head perfectly Ness.

Thanks to everyone's advice, I've shifted some things around a bit by starting studying sessions one hour later, with bedtime being one hour earlier … so I get more sleep to focus on Lucid Dreaming, and also, like you said before … instead of trying to do everything at once, I'm focusing on one lil ting at a time. Baby Steps.

Thank you for helping me.

It's just like you said, a lot of this documenting stuff is actually a good way of learning and more just an excuse to push myself out of my comfort zone with various social anxiety issues, so maybe that's where the conflict really lies.

Fear.

It's always fear when you drill down far enough. I almost wonder if I piled everything on at once to make myself fail so I would give up and not have to put myself in the uncomfortable space.